Live in the Orange Zone - Day 18
30 Days of Self Study, Meditation and Reflection
Day 18 of living in the Orange Zone.
Today, we're gonna do some space training and I don't mean outer space training or Feng Shui training. I mean in the head creating space training.
The quote comes from Victor Frankl from the book Man's Search for Meaning, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. And in our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Stimulus and response; stimulus is life and it's always happening. We can never press a button and turn it off. Life is always going on. Response is how I'm reacting to whatever's happening in life right now. It's not always what I say or what I do, it's also what I'm thinking when I'm feeling. I can never turn that off either. It's always at play.
Oftentimes, as we've been talking about this past week, it's on autopilot. I might not even realize that something happened and it made me start to feel worried and think worried thoughts. I might not realize that someone said something that hurt my feelings and I spend the rest of my day replaying it and being angry about it. Stimulus and response.
The space inbetween is where we create this opportunity to get a bigger perspective and to see what the stimulus is and how we want to respond to it. It's like a doorway into your internal self that can give you this opportunity to respond with how we'd like to respond, with maybe more joy or more compassion or happiness. That is our liberation. Our ability to choose is where we're liberated to really live the life that we want to live in the moments, not just the big days, but the little moments of our life to make those choices, to respond in a way that creates more happiness and love.
I have an example because I think it's helpful to hear a story. One of my students who's been studying with me for a while, he’s a great surfer, who was out surfing one day and it was just packed. There were tons of surfers out that day and he was paddling out. He was already in his response going, oh, crap it's not going to be a fun day. It's going to be filled with people cutting me off, and all those kinds of things. He's paddling out and thinking these thoughts. Sure enough, he gets out there and sure enough, people are being aggressive towards each other and an angry out in the water. And he does this thing where he creates a space in between reacting to that. He realized, I am out here surfing because I want to enjoy nature. I want to be in the water. That's what makes me happy. I don't want to be out here just trying to get a wave and trying to get more than the guy next to me. In that space he created, he chose a different response.
As people were coming up to catch waves, he said he just started waving them on and waving at them, saying “hey, you take this wave” instead of trying to get in front of them and get the wave. He said he had one of the best surf sessions he's ever had. He had so much fun. He caught a few ways. He had so much fun and he felt liberated.
I just want to invite all of you to join me in creating this space in the moments over our life where we don't even realize we're in a pattern of reacting. That if we could just pull ourselves out enough to give us this much, we could create even more happiness, even more joy, even more compassion in our lives.
Let's do some space training.
Day 18 Inspiration
Today's inspiration comes from Rumi
Unfold your own myth.
Who gets up early to discover the moment light begins? Who finds us here circling, bewildered, like atoms?
Click the links below to find out more:
The Orange Zone - A 30 Day Practice - YouTube Playlist
Daily Inspirational Quotes for 30 Day Meditation
Blog Post: What is the Orange Zone?
Day 1: InvitationDay 2: Practice Silence & Listening
Day 3: Adding Gratitude
Day 4: Set Intentions
Day 5: Give a Blessing
Day 6: Start Young
Day 7: Sacred Reading & Reflection
Day 8: Wear & Remember
Day 9: The Practices Brings Transformation
Day 10: Repot & Prune for Growth
Day 11: Indoor Pruning
Day 12: Move the Furniture
Day 13: Self Reflection & Appreciation
Day 14: Practice Appreciation & Feel Blessed
Day 15: Why hurry?
Day 16: Energy Banking
Day 17: Start Your Day with a Healthy Breakfast
Day 18: Space Training
Day 19: Breath- Our Instant Medicine
Day 20: Create your own Garden