Here was the quote we used for our wedding:
"A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth-that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which a man can aspire.
Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of human is through love and in love.
I understood how a man who has nothing left in this world still may know bliss, be it only for the brief moment, in the contemplation of his beloved." ~ A Man's Search for Meaning
I had read this book in college and it made a huge impact on me. When Andrew was diagnosed with A.L.L., he was 22 and I was 23. It was a terrifying time and we really had no road map to follow. It was the words of Viktor Frankl that kept coming back to me. His quote about "Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way" inspired us to choose our own attitude and our own way throughout his treatments and recovery. But ultimately, it was the quote from our wedding that inspired me in my role towards Andrew's healing. I truly believed that love could be his salvation - whether he lived or not, loving him and loving each other through it all would be his salvation - and my salvation for that matter. In situations like our - the truth that Frankl speaks about "love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which a man can aspire" becomes so clear and obvious. And the correlation about how this truth has been "set in song" over and over again through the years seemed so perfect for Andrew as a musician.
When we got married, only 16 months after Andrew received his stem cell transplant, this quote was a reminder to us about what is truly important. To not forget the gift of clarity this experience gave us. It is a road map to all that would come - a reminder to the power of approaching each other and life in general "through love and in love" and how that when we aspire to love each other, even in the midst of life's greatest struggles and tragedies, we are will all find our salvation.